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Hurricane Irma and the Power Outage

Hurricane Irma and the Power Outage

Oh my goodness, what a week this has been! Hurricane Irma wiped out the power grid here in Florida, and while most of the state is getting back to normal, my house is on Day 8 without electricity. Don’t feel too sorry for me; we do have a generator!

It has been a very interesting experience, both from the perspective of being without power ourselves, and watching others deal with it in various ways. To be fair, I’m separating the people who simply lost power, like us, from the ones who actually sustained damage to their homes from wind, flooding, falling trees, etc. That’s a whole different thing altogether.

After Hurricane Matthew came through last year and left us without power for 3 days, we decided to invest in a whole-house generator, one of the big ones that gets installed out back and comes on automatically when the power goes out. We live out in the country, with a lot of trees along our dirt road that have a habit of falling on the power lines during big storms, so we knew we were likely to lose power again in the future. It wouldn’t be such a big deal, except that we have six horses and two donkeys, and they require about 100 gallons of water every day. If you had to haul that much water every day from somewhere else, how would you go about that? It isn’t easy, I promise!

While we do have the capacity to just let the generator run and have power like things are normal, it costs a lot in terms of propane to do that. Also, we would burn through our 200 gallons of propane in about four days, with no guarantee of getting more right away. So, we have devised a schedule around our needs.

When I wake up in the morning, usually around 5:00, I go downstairs and fire up the generator. We let it run for about three hours while we work out, bring the horses in from the pasture to their stalls and feed them, eat breakfast, and shower. That gives the fridge and freezers time to run through their cycle a few times and recover from being off all night. We turn it on again at noon for an hour, 5:00 pm for about two hours so we can cook, and at nine for an hour before bed. This lets us do most of what we need to do (excluding laundry), while stretching our fuel capacity to about three weeks.

Here are some habits I’ve observed that I have, and can’t seem to break:

  1. Turning on the light switch when I walk into a dark room.
  2. Turning on the tap to get a glass of water, rather than reach for the pitcher
  3. Laying in bed at night wishing the ceiling fan was on
  4. Looking at the alarm clock when I wake up to see what time it is
  5. Assuming that the shower will be hot, even if I forgot to turn on the water heater earlier
  6. Expecting the laptop/phone to be connected to the internet at all times
  7. Believing that my phone will charge while I’m asleep

Here are some behaviors that I have managed to change:

  1. Stop opening the fridge to find something to snack on
  2. Stop using the bathroom (as opposed to going outside, as we do live in the woods…)
  3. Using the computer with 1 screen instead of 2
  4. Drive the diesel truck so I don’t have to wait in line for an hour at the gas station
  5. Get everything I need out of the fridge in 1 shot, instead of opening it 3 times.
  6. Turn shower off while I soap up to conserve hot water

Judging from Facebook posts I have seen, I’m not the only one going through this process! Facebook has been useful, in that we’ve been able to learn tips and tricks from one another on how to improve the quality of our powerlessness. Menu ideas have been especially insightful for me, as I am not very handy in the kitchen. Keeping a rotation of frozen milk jugs filled with water going back and forth from the fridge to the freezer will help maintain the fridge temperature when the generator is off, and that’s a really big deal.

Anyway, I’ve decided that I will probably break all of my old habits the day the power comes back on, and then I will have to relearn them all. That’s okay; I’m ready to give it a go! I miss the air conditioner at night, and I’m looking forward to not having to walk to the other end of the barn to start the generator every morning before I can make the coffee!

J. Boyd Long is an author, blogger, website developer, and the CFO of Springhill Equine Veterinary Clinic. In his spare time (ha!) he likes to paint, read, canoe, and hike in the wilderness. You can subscribe to this blog in the big blue block, and future blogs will be delivered to your email. Warning: Subscribing may increase your awesomeness quotient. Please feel free to comment, and share this blog on your favorite social media page! To learn more, please visit JBoydLong.com 

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Self-Doubt: The Taboo Topic

Self-Doubt: The Taboo Topic

Self-Doubt: The Taboo Topic (and how to beat it!)

There is so much societal pressure on being perfect, or appearing to be perfect, that we all become alienated from the reality of being human. If you don’t have a strong figure to teach you about these things early in life, then you end up coming to the same conclusions that I came to: something is wrong with me.

As a man, I am expected to never talk about my feelings, with two exceptions. The first exception is anger, which can be displayed openly, and the second exception is an occasional admission of love for my wife, and once a year for my mom on Mother’s Day, both of which are done in private. Other than that, stoic is the word.

My dad was a rock, as were most of the adult men in my life when I was a kid. I had no idea that he ever felt anything other than rage, because that’s the only emotion I ever saw him display. So, I grew up with the understanding that a man doesn’t experience doubt, or self-esteem problems, or fear, or social anxiety, or the black hole of negativity, or any of that stuff. The problem was that I experienced all of those things. I compared my insides to my dad’s outsides, and there was only one possible conclusion, since we never talked about this stuff: something is wrong with me.

Today I want to talk about feelings

I want to take this opportunity to tell someone out there who feels the same way I used to feel (and sometimes still do), that it’s okay to feel different on the inside than other people look on the outside. It doesn’t matter if you are male or female, young or old. You’re not perfect, but neither is anyone else. If someone looks perfect, it’s because you don’t know them very well. Even confident, successful people are less together inside than you think they are. They might not be a mess, but they have their issues.

The big difference between successful people and everyone else is that successful people don’t let their emotional hang-ups keep them down. People who run big companies have just as many doubts about whether they are good enough to handle the responsibility as anyone else. They know, however, that they don’t have to be perfect. They know what their weak areas are, and they build a team of people who are good at different things to compensate for those weak areas.

How does that help someone who doesn’t have a team, you ask?

Immensely! The key part of their success isn’t in building a great team, it’s in knowing what their weaknesses are, and working on the ones they can fix. Self-awareness is the most important thing that there is. Self-awareness is the most common trait among great people, and the least common among the masses.

If you perform an honest self-evaluation, and answer the following questions, then you can grow into whoever it is that you want to become:

  1. What are my 10 best qualities? (Character traits, not skills)
  2. What are my 10 worst character flaws?
  3. What emotional instability is at the core of each of my flaws?
  4. What specific action am I going to take each day to turn my flaws into qualities?
  5. What are things about me that I can’t change, but that I need to always be conscious of in my decisions and activities?

Here are some of my answers to these things, just to give you some insight into how I approach this.

Flaw:

I get angry when people criticize my work or ideas, or suggest other ideas rather than accepting mine.

Emotional Instability:

Low self-esteem. When someone criticizes my work, I take it as a criticism of me, as if they are saying I’m not good enough, and I get hostile and defensive. This is because sometimes I secretly believe that I’m not good enough, and when something seems to confirm that, it really hurts, and so I attack back.

Action:

I want to turn this flaw into an openness to other ideas, so that I can grow and become better. So, when someone criticizes something, I will acknowledge that the hurt and anger I feel is a false reaction to the situation. Then I will listen to the reasoning, and give it a fair shot. I will remind myself that no one is attacking me, as many times as is necessary during the conversation. I will also remind myself that other people have good ideas too, and that it’s in my best interest to be accepting when they are willing to share them with me. I will remember that the contributions of others helps me become better at what I do.

Something that I can’t change about myself that’s important to know:

I am an empath. I pick up on the emotions of people around me, and they get magnified in my head, which can be overwhelming. This means that in a conflict, or serious argument, I am going to be extremely uncomfortable, and I’m likely to go off the deep end if I get involved. Even if I am not involved, and just happen to be near others who are arguing, I get very uncomfortable, and feel the urge to leave immediately.

This is the self-awareness that I have now that helps me find success. Before I knew these things about myself, I lived my life reacting to things blindly (and badly!). Now I know how to coach myself through things so I can respond appropriately, and I also know what environments are going to be bad for me. For example, a high-stress workplace where people yell at each other is not a place that I will be successful. I also know that being in a crowd of emotionally-charged people is a bad place for me, even if they are excited and happy, because the emotional surge will drown me. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong with me, it just means I have to be smart about where I go.

You might have more than ten flaws on your list to work on, and that’s okay. I had twenty-eight on my list when I started! By the time I worked my way through the emotional aspect of all of them, I realized that most of them were based on my insecurity issue, which was a huge relief. That meant I really just had to work on improving my sense of self, and that would fix a lot of my flaws.

I’m far from finished with that problem, but I would rate my self-confidence at a 3 out of 10 when I started this process eight years ago, and now I would give myself a 6.5, and that’s a huge improvement! I hope that this will help you understand two things:

1) that’s it’s okay to have flaws, even big ones
2) that you can do something about them, and be successful in life at whatever it is that you want to do

I know, because I did it, and if I can do it, so can you!

J. Boyd Long is an author, blogger, website developer, and the CFO of Springhill Equine Veterinary Clinic. In his spare time (ha!) he likes to paint, read, canoe, and hike in the wilderness. You can subscribe to this blog in the big blue block, and future blogs will be delivered to your email. Warning: Subscribing may increase your awesomeness quotient. Please feel free to comment, and share this blog on your favorite social media page! To learn more, please visit JBoydLong.com 

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How To Be Successful In 999 Easy Steps!

How To Be Successful In 999 Easy Steps!

So one of the many, many, many lessons that life has taught me is that everything that I want to do is going to be harder than I think it’s going to be. I think I started off with the idea that people were just naturally good at different things, like sports, or playing an instrument, or making decisions. This was disappointing for me, because I was not naturally good at anything. As with all things, you don’t know what you don’t know, so I was fairly unprepared for the reality of life, which is that:

if you want to be good at something, you have to work your ass off for it.

 

One of my first eye-openers that I can do something that I don’t currently know how to do was when I started playing music with other people. Up until I was about 32, I plunked a few chords on my guitar and butchered a couple of songs on occasion, and mostly believed that I just didn’t have what it took to be a musician. Once I decided that’s what I wanted to do more than anything else, and met the right people who taught me what I needed to know, everything changed. That’s me on the left side of the picture, playing with my band at a farmer’s market and having a blast!

So, what did it take for me to go from a “no-talent” guy with a lack of confidence to playing at the farmer’s market with a band? Practice. Determination. Lots and lots of both. When we formed the band, we practiced 2 hours a day, 3 days a week, for a year. That’s about 300 hours of practice to get ready to play in front of other people. Was it worth it? Absolutely.

My first painting, Feb 2012

The same thing has proven true for my writing. I’ve written an awful lot of short stories, and a lot of them were awful! The more I wrote, however, the better I got at it. I’m not anywhere near where I want to be with it at this point, but I am way better than I was when I first started. Last November I wrote Adventures of the Horse Doctor’s Husband. I sat down each day in November and wrote a 2,000 – 4,000 word story about one of the many interesting things that I’ve been involved with over the last few years. My writing skills improved on a daily basis during that experience, and when it was done, I had the confidence in myself to try a full-length fiction novel. It took me 6 months to write, but I just finished DimWorld: Foundation which is the first book in a dystopian fantasy series! Whether or not I become wildly successful as a writer is outside my control. Whether or not I am successful at writing books, however, is totally within my control!

Painting #48, Oct 2016

When we look at people who are doing things that we admire, or aspire to, I think it’s easy to convince ourselves that we don’t have what it takes. When that happens, we end up sitting around not doing anything with our lives. I had that mindset throughout my twenties and into my early thirties, and I wasted a lot of my life believing that I couldn’t, that I wasn’t good enough. When I met a mentor who taught me that I can, and that it just takes work and commitment and determination, I found out that I can do all sorts of things. I learned how to write music, and I recorded my own album in my living room. I learned how to paint, and I covered my walls with paintings. I learned how to write, and I’m about to start on my third book. I learned how to be a decent human being, and I married an amazing woman.

All of these things are the result of a lot of hard work, and this is the message I would give myself if I could go back in time:

Dear Justin,

You are capable of doing incredible, amazing things! You don’t think you are, for a variety of reasons, but I’m telling you it’s true. Someday you’re going to learn how to do all kinds of cool stuff. You can start now; you don’t have to wait until you’re 35 to get going on it. Work hard. When you struggle, work harder. Surround yourself with amazing people who inspire you to be better. Every time you do something, you get better at it. Be patient. Trust the process. Work harder. Never beat yourself up for failing, it’s all part of learning. Some of the things you do are going to suck, but that’s okay! That doesn’t mean that you suck, it just means that something didn’t work out, that’s all. Don’t compare yourself to others, because they aren’t trying to do what you are trying to do. Don’t listen to people who speak negatively of your efforts. Love yourself no matter what. You are going to be okay, I promise! Just keep moving forward, one step at a time. You’ll get there.

Sincerely,

Me

P.S. Share this insight with others; they might not know. It applies to everyone.

J. Boyd Long is an author, blogger, website developer, and the CFO of Springhill Equine Veterinary Clinic. In his spare time (ha!) he likes to paint, read, canoe, and hike in the wilderness. You can subscribe to this blog in the big blue block, and future blogs will be delivered to your email. Warning: Subscribing may increase your awesomeness quotient. Please feel free to comment, and share this blog on your favorite social media page! To learn more, please visit JBoydLong.com 

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Shroom Life

Shroom Life

One of the many things in the world that interests me is the mushroom. This is a fairly new interest, and it has developed over the last few years of walking past piles of horse poop on the farm and noticing the mushrooms growing there. First it was the colors that caught my attention. Some of them are white, some are orange, some are even brown. One day I decided to take a picture, and when I saw it larger than life on my computer, I was like, Wow! These things are pretty cool! So, I started paying more attention to them, and taking more pictures. Something magic happens when you get the camera right up close to them.

Last spring we went to Cloudland Canyon State Park up in northwest Georgia. It was fantastic as usual (our 3rd time going, and we still haven’t seen the entire thing!). I found a huge variety of mushrooms growing beside the trails as we hiked. Some of them are exotic, some are lone rangers, and some are like little villages. I was absolutely fascinated with the little tiny orange ones growing in the moss. If ever there was a natural setting for a story about some tiny creature in the forest, this was it!

I can’t help but imagine that a mushroom is like a tiny little beach umbrella, and the ants, or grasshoppers, and maybe even a roly poly or two are hanging out there, doing whatever it is that they do on an ordinary day. Perhaps they gather for lunch and shoot the shit, discussing such things as Jack, the maddening cricket that keeps everyone up at night, or Frank, who got stepped on while trying to cross the trail during the day despite being told not to. Maybe they even have community action forums, where they try to come up with ways to keep people from littering along the trails. That might explain why spiders build webs across the trails every night; they’re trying to discourage people from going any further. I’ll admit that every time I pick up a piece of trash that someone else dropped in the forest, I consider how much better it would be if people just weren’t allowed to go in there.

Mainly, I am just entranced by the tiny little microcosms that exist all around me; the life that goes through it’s cycles, oblivious to me and the rest of the crazy human drama in the world. A large part of me really appreciates the simplicity of it. It’s not a world without problems, of course; I’m not that naive. I know that I cause chaos and destruction when I run over these things with the mower, and that the affected little micro world suffers a 9/11 event and has to start over. Even a horse picking that spot to pee is probably a life-altering event for the inhabitants of that little spot. These things happen all the time, and yet, life goes on. It’s easy to be an optimist from a distance, right? Speaking of distance, do you see the grasshopper sitting on the poop in that picture with the white mushrooms?

Fungus is an interesting life form. I recently learned that the vast majority of a fungus lives underground; the mushroom part we see is just the tip of the iceberg. It plays a big role in delivering nutrients to other things in the soil. There is even a fungus that connects tree roots together in some places, and when one tree is suffering, other trees can send it what it needs through the fungus. How incredible is that?

At this point, I am merely a visual enthusiast. I haven’t tried to learn what different kinds of mushroom there are, or any of that. I’m a little bit OCD, so I know that if I learn one, then I’m going to want to learn them all, and I just can’t commit the time or the limited gray matter to that right now! I’m content to just enjoy them, and let my imagination wander around them.

I’m considering painting one of the photos. I don’t know if a massive mushroom on a 4′ canvas is something that anyone else would get excited about, but my thoughts keep returning to the idea. The grass and other greenery around the mushrooms is a big concern for me though, and the main reason that I haven’t already tried my hand at it. That stuff is critical to the picture, because it creates the contrast, but it is so tedious to paint that I cringe at the thought!

So, at this point in the blog, I’m just trying to put words in here to fill in the space beside the pictures. I didn’t intend for this to become a book; I mainly just wanted to share some of the pictures I’ve been taking! So, you can feel free to stop reading, and just look at the pictures. I promise I won’t be mad at you 😉 

J. Boyd Long is an author, blogger, website developer, and the CFO of Springhill Equine Veterinary Clinic. In his spare time (ha!) he likes to paint, read, canoe, and hike in the wilderness. You can subscribe to this blog in the big blue block, and future blogs will be delivered to your email. Warning: Subscribing may increase your awesomeness quotient. Please feel free to comment, and share this blog on your favorite social media page! To learn more, please visit JBoydLong.com 

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Ernie’s Colic Surgery Extravaganza

Ernie’s Colic Surgery Extravaganza

In the last three years, I have responded to a pretty significant number of horse colic emergencies with my wife the equine veterinarian, Dr. Lacher. Most of them are mild gas colics or impactions, and with some good drugs and a few gallons of water, they are all set. Some of them are more serious, and require either immediate colic surgery, or euthanasia. Those are pretty tough, and I’ve helped send some to the referral hospital, and I’ve helped send some to heaven.

This week it was our turn to have the emergency. Ernie, who is our off-the-track Thoroughbred (and my main competition for Erica’s heart), decided Tuesday evening that he was going to be the center of attention. Outwardly, he presented the typical colic symptoms; laying down, rolling, looking at his side, getting up, laying right back down, and being generally uncomfortable. Soon after starting this, he began throwing himself on the ground, which meant he was really hurting.

Adventures of the Horse Doctor's Husband

Getting Ernie into position for surgery

Erica sedated him, and then palpated him to see what was going on. (In case you don’t know, that involves a glove that goes up to her shoulder, and a lot of lube. I’ll leave the rest to your imagination.) She can usually tell what’s wrong by feeling an impaction, or distension, or a major gas build-up somewhere that’s not getting past a certain point. She also checks to see if the horse is dehydrated, or doesn’t have any gut sounds, along with their heart rate, lactate (which is very similar to a blood sugar test), and temperature.

 

Everything had to be done by feel

Ernie had a low lactate and heart rate, both of which are good. His temperature was 102, which is high, but not terrible. His organs all seemed to be where they are supposed to be, although the walls of his small intestine were thicker than they should have been. This meant that whatever was causing him so much pain was deeper inside than she could reach with her arm or the ultrasound. She gave him a shot to ease his pain, but it didn’t last very long, and soon he was throwing himself on the ground again.

This is a point where horse owners have to make a really tough decision. They can send the horse to a referral hospital for surgery, which will cost somewhere in the neighborhood of $6,000 – $10,000, or else the horse has to be euthanized, because they don’t recover on their own from situations like this. We elected to go for colic surgery.

 

Inspecting the small intestine for damage

It turned out that Ernie had entrapped his small intestine. There is a spot near the liver and the spine that’s a sort of hole created from several organs coming together, but not quite touching. For whatever reason, a bit of Ernie’s small intestine poked through this hole, which caused his abdomen to contract, which caused more of his intestine to be forced through the hole, which caused the abdomen to contract… you see the cycle. The surgeons had to enter into his abdomen through the incision they made in his stomach, point their hand towards his head, and reach their arm in all the way to the armpit to get to where this was happening. The small intestine tears easily, so they had to gently pull it out with a thumb and forefinger a tiny bit at a time. All in all, they pulled seventeen feet of intestine out of that spot. I get a finger cramp just imagining that!

 

Closing the incision

Once they got it all out, they pulled the small intestine out of his body to make sure it wasn’t torn anywhere, which would kill him if left untreated. It all looked good, so they put everything back where it goes, and sewed him up. The surgery took about two hours to perform. I learned a lot about colic surgeries in that two hours, despite the fact that it was 2:00 am when everything was done and he was standing up in a recovery stall, and I was ready to fall down from exhaustion. One of the things I learned was that Ernie would have died pretty fast if we hadn’t gotten him to surgery when we did, which is terrifying, because what if it had happened in the middle of the night when we were in bed asleep, or while no one was home?

 

Horses, man. Never a dull moment. I won’t complain about the cost of the colic surgery, because I got to see the entire thing, and believe me when I say they earned every penny of it. I’m grateful that we were in a position to provide it for him, and let him live. I hate that so often life and death becomes a financial decision rather than a medical decision. It happens with people too, not just with animals. I don’t know what the solution is to that problem, but I think it’s something that needs to be explored. If we still traded food and goods for services, I’d be happy to give the surgery team a truckload of vegetables from the garden! Well, the only thing my garden produced this year is Japanese eggplant, but that’s another blog post.

J. Boyd Long is an author, blogger, website developer, and the CFO of Springhill Equine Veterinary Clinic. In his spare time (ha!) he likes to paint, read, canoe, and hike in the wilderness. You can subscribe to this blog in the big blue block, and future blogs will be delivered to your email. Warning: Subscribing may increase your awesomeness quotient. Please feel free to comment, and share this blog on your favorite social media page! To learn more, please visit JBoydLong.com 

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3, 2, 1, Launch!

3, 2, 1, Launch!

Hello, and welcome to my blog!

This is a pretty exciting point in my writing career. My first book, Adventures of the Horse Doctor’s Husband, is off to the editor. My second book, DimWorld: Foundation, is almost completed, and I’m working on the outline for the second book in the DimWorld series. I got my Facebook page going, I got my website built, and I’m making my first blog post. It’s been a busy day! I’m kidding, of course! It’s been a journey of about 9 months to get to this point. I have learned so much since it all started that it’s hard to comprehend it all at once.

Let’s back it up a year, and try to recreate some of this process. Let’s see, it’s August of 2017 right now. In August 2016, none of this had started. I have been writing short stories since I was in high school back in the early 90’s, but my longest work was about 10K words, and most of them were around 5K words. I had been toying with the idea of writing something longer, but I couldn’t really focus my ideas into a story. I wanted to find a way to share my philosophy about society, and personal responsibility, and self-awareness, but the ideas were really broad, and no one wants to read a treatise on my problems with the world!

Nanowrimo, or National Novel Writing Month (November) came up last year, as it always does, and I decided I was going to participate, just to see how hard it is to write 50,000 words in a month. Instead of philosophy, I decided to write about my life today. People tend to be interested in my oral stories about some of the exciting things I get to do as a veterinarian’s husband, and the emergency situations that I get involved in, so I decided to use that as the topic of my experimental book.

It turns out that it was a lot easier to write than I expected! I exceeded my word count goal significantly, and prior to editing, it was just over 80K words (my editor might change that, but it’s a starting point!). I was overjoyed to find out that I am capable of writing more than I thought I was. Riding on that success, I decided to write a fantasy novel and see how that goes. So, while working on getting my first book into the pre-publishing process, I started writing the second one. I realized early on that the fantasy book has more potential to be a series than a single book, so I adjusted course on that. I’m wrapping it up this week, and moving right on to book 2. I want to keep the momentum going, so that people don’t get invested in the story and then find themselves waiting a year to find out what happens next!

In my next post, I’ll detail some of the steps I’ve taken to get to here, for those of you who are trying to go the same direction that I’m going. Make sure you subscribe to my blog so you are plugged in to the action! Speaking of action, here’s Pesca, who always has to be in the middle of the action. Half of the first book was written, quite literally, on this cat! What’s that? Am I typing from a recliner on a wireless, ergonomic keyboard in comfort and style? You better believe it!

J. Boyd Long is an author, blogger, website developer, and the CFO of Springhill Equine Veterinary Clinic. In his spare time (ha!) he likes to paint, read, canoe, and hike in the wilderness. You can subscribe to this blog in the big blue block, and future blogs will be delivered to your email. Warning: Subscribing may increase your awesomeness quotient. Please feel free to comment, and share this blog on your favorite social media page! To learn more, please visit JBoydLong.com 

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